A difficult week...

Dear blog readers,

See below. I have blogged about her many times recently (anonymously). What the obituary didn't say was how full of life El was, even to the very end. If you feel inclined to doing a random act of kindness, I encourage you to contribute to Lucy's college fund. She is a bright cookie and definitely college material! (Since this was published in the paper, I am breaking my tradition of using initials in this blog, except for political figures).

Kiss your loved ones. You just never know what life will throw you!

BSM

Eleanor "El" Skaar, 51, lost her heroic struggle with breast cancer on Wednesday February 23, 2011 at home surrounded by her loving family. Born in Summit, El was raised in Meyersville and has resided in Martinsville for the past 15 years. For 18 years, El was an international financial manager at AT&T in Basking Ridge. She later became a grant writer for the Cancer Hope Network, an organization she was strongly devoted to. She was a devout animal lover, had a great passion for the outdoors and traveling, and especially loved entertaining for her many friends and family members. El is predeceased by her father Anthony J. Caporaso. She is survived by her husband Donald V. Skaar; daughter Lucy E. Skaar or Martinsville; mother Doris E. Caporaso of Warren; brother Dan Caporaso and wife Kathi Neville Caporaso of Whitehouse and sister Dolores Caporaso of Hillsborough. She is also survived by her in-laws Victor and Vivian Skaar of Montgomery; sister-in-law Kristen and husband Jeffrey Banko of VA and brother-in-law Jeffrey of Montgomery.

Visiting hours will take place on Sunday, February 27, 2011 from 2-4 and 7-9 PM at the Bridgewater Funeral Home, 707 East Main Street, Bridgewater NJ 08807. Prayers will be said 9 AM at the Funeral Home on Monday, February 28, 2011, followed by a 10 AM Funeral Service at Stonecrest Community Church, 11 Technology Drive North, Warren NJ. In Lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Lucy's Educational Fund, payable to Lucy Skaar UTMA, P.O. Box 21 Martinsville NJ 08836.

Published in Courier News from February 25 to February 26, 2011 


Remember El like this. It was taken at her 50th birthday party about a year ago.

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