Women and assertion
I am a feminist. I believe that women are equal to men, but not the same as men. Although I chose to stay home for a while, I believe that women should be strong in the workforce, running governments and corporations and still able to manage a family.
I think that our gender has a long way to go in learning the tricks of the trade.
Here are 2 examples of my lack of skills in a so-called "man's world" in the last 24 hours:
1) I had a loose offer on a job yesterday. I told them I was very interested.
But I never asked what it pays! So now I have more or less committed to begin a new job next week without any idea of the compensation. I thought that if the interviewer doesn't bring up salary, neither should the applicant. So I went home ignorant and unsure.
2) We have a one-foot square hole in our living room ceiling and our shower has been leaking into the living room since May! I have been begging the plumber to come back all summer. Every week I call. Every week he blows me off. The times he has been here, he says he needs a part and never returns. One time he claimed he fixed it, left and a week later it started leaking into the living room again.
Can't I "grow a pair" before 3pm today when I have my second interview? When do I cut my losses with the repair job and just call another plumber? Why can't I berate him into coming they way I do my kids? I am not afraid of some conflict!
Maybe I need to call my successful business girlfriends. Advice, please!
I think that our gender has a long way to go in learning the tricks of the trade.
Here are 2 examples of my lack of skills in a so-called "man's world" in the last 24 hours:
1) I had a loose offer on a job yesterday. I told them I was very interested.
But I never asked what it pays! So now I have more or less committed to begin a new job next week without any idea of the compensation. I thought that if the interviewer doesn't bring up salary, neither should the applicant. So I went home ignorant and unsure.
2) We have a one-foot square hole in our living room ceiling and our shower has been leaking into the living room since May! I have been begging the plumber to come back all summer. Every week I call. Every week he blows me off. The times he has been here, he says he needs a part and never returns. One time he claimed he fixed it, left and a week later it started leaking into the living room again.
Can't I "grow a pair" before 3pm today when I have my second interview? When do I cut my losses with the repair job and just call another plumber? Why can't I berate him into coming they way I do my kids? I am not afraid of some conflict!
Maybe I need to call my successful business girlfriends. Advice, please!
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